Two days ago, I was meditating at the promenade in Pondicherry — a city on India's East coast. Normally, my chosen anchor for meditation is my breath. However, that day it was the sound of waves. Whenever I started to drift off into the sea of thoughts, I’d slowly bring my attention back to the waves in the sea.
After a while, something amazing happened. Slowly, and unintentionally, my breath started to sync in with the waves. Inhale — the wave would rise. Exhale — the wave would crash. It was extraordinary.
In fact, every single one of the last…
Two years ago, my brother asked me a question that would go on to change my life. “Should we try out Vipassana this year?” Owing to brotherly trust and oblivious to what I was signing up for, I said, “Sure. Why not. What’s Vipassana by the way?”
Vipassana, he told me, was a meditation technique rediscovered by Gotama the Buddha through rigorous self-experimentation in an attempt to end suffering. In our time, it was S. N. Goenka who reintroduced Vipassana to the world.
Vipassana has helped millions of people live a better life, including people like Jack Dorsey, the CEO…
Here’s the thing about living an extraordinary life. Not everyone can do it.
That’s by definition. And I don’t believe everyone even needs to do it. Not everyone has to have an extraordinary life to be happy. Such a model would guarantee happiness only for the top 2–3% of the world. That’s not efficient.
That said, I’ve also come to realise that there are some people who have to be extraordinary to be happy. I think I am one of those people. Now, I’m not saying I am extraordinary, but I know that’s where I’m headed. Because I need to…
Yes, race towards excellence. Meaning, moving as fast as you can towards the goals you have in life without burning out.
What you need to understand is that there are a lot of variables in life that determine whether or not you’ll achieve your goals. Let’s call them stars. And what you want to do is to align all these stars in a way that every one of those variables pushes you towards your goals.
Let’s take an example. Say you want to lose weight. And you want to align the stars in your life to help you do that…
A sure sign that you’re a winner in life is that you understand the subtle things that matter.
Because… the big things that matter are kind of obvious. They’re right there in your face. Little things, on the other hand, slip by. They’re not paid attention to. And if you can learn to understand their significance and make changes in your life accordingly, you can live a richer life.
This article is about four such little things that matter more than you might think. Let’s get to it.
You cannot live life without exchanging favours. One day you’re gonna ask…
The title stings. I know.
But that’s the thing about truth. It pisses you off at first. But then, it sets you free.
Over the past year, as I learnt more and more about life, I realised that I was unintentionally making this world a worse place in some ways. And if someone had told me how, I’d be pissed too. I would have defended myself. But someday, I’d have to accept it and change my ways, because my sole purpose in life is to help people around me and make this world a better place. So I did.
My newest project as a writer, and as a human trying to figure out life is to build myself a skillset consisting of numerous psychological tools I can use to win at life.
To that end, these days I spend a lot of time trying to figure out how my mind works. And then, I spend time developing and mastering some psychological skills that I can use to help my mind work the way I actually want it to work. If I can constantly improve the way my mind works, I can become the person I want to be. …
Sigmund Freud said,
“Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.”
He meant that working on our love, and loving the work we do can help us live truly happy lives.
The latter — loving the work you do — requires that you be good at what you do. Obviously, nobody likes to be average at their work. We all want to be better than our peers and our past selves.
Hence — I’m gonna state the obvious, but that’s okay — getting ahead in your career is important for your own happiness. …
It’s so obvious. You live life in your head. Sure, you might be in your bedroom reading this article, but, on a deeper level, we don’t live in our physical surroundings. We live in our heads.
And in our heads, we’re in a constant state of battle. Multiple voices tell us to do different stuff. Our lazy voice tells us to skip the gym. The part of us that wants to lose weight tells us to not. Who do we listen to?
These days, I’m more focused than ever to try to learn how to win the battles that happen…
A sad reality is that most people in the world will live their lives without ever significantly accessing higher-level thinking.
What’s higher-level thinking? Well, it’s just what the name suggests. It’s the kind of thinking that’s not ordinary. It enables you to see things more clearly. It destroys confusion. It’s where epiphanies come from.
But how do you access higher-level thinking?
Picture a big-ass library. On the bottom shelves are the books that are easily accessible and are read by most people. On the top shelves, however, the thick, complex and difficult books reside. They’re more likely to be covered…